Do I Have to Send a Gift If I’m Not Attending the Wedding?

download (4)Question: Dear Julie, My husband and I were recently invited to the wedding of the daughter of a business associate of mine. We’re unable to go to this wedding, due to a previous commitment, but we’re wondering what to do about sending a gift. This person isn’t a co-worker of mine who I work with in the office on a daily base, it’s someone I only do business with every once in a while and who I would consider an acquaintance at best. Julie, do we need to send a wedding gift to the child of such an acquaintance if we’re not attending the wedding? There would be no question if it were a family member or close friend, but I’m unsure of the protocol here. Thanks! Brenda

Answer: Dear Brenda, thanks for your question. Traditionally, etiquette dictates that if you are invited to a reception that is weeks after the wedding, or if you’re only sent a wedding announcement then there is no need to send a gift. However, if you are invited to the wedding ceremony itself, you are supposed to still send a gift. Now, this rule, like so many other etiquette rules, have been followed less often lately. But that is still the official ruling. So, if you want to keep your business relationship happy, even if it’s a casual one, you might want to send along a card with a cash gift for the bride and groom.


  1. I would not send a gift

  2. Sounds fair to me

  3. i could see if it was somebody close, but i wouldnt send a gift for this person

  4. I would just to show some love and respect!

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