Question: Hey there, Julie! My fiancé and I are having a Halloween-themed wedding the day after Halloween and we’re just about to send out our invitations. We’re super excited and we’re working very hard on some cool and creepy Halloween decorations for the reception. We’re very dedicated to the theme and we hope that our families and friends will all get into the festive spirit of the event. We’re printing up a little insert to put in our invitation asking everyone to dress in Halloween costumes. So our question is this – is it rude to ask people to dress in costume for a Halloween wedding? And how should we word the insert asking our guests to dress up and be festive with us? Thanks, Amy
Answer: Hi, Amy, congratulations on your wedding and for choosing such a unique and fun way to get married. You can absolutely invite your guests to get into the spirit and dress up in costumes for the occasion; just make sure you word it as just that – an invitation – and not a demand or prerequisite. If you don’t want your elderly grandmother to skip your wedding because she doesn’t want to dress up, make it clear that guests are “invited to dress in costume.” You may want to help your guests get into the fun of the day by having a table filled with costume pieces they can grab at the reception if they didn’t dress up. Some suggestions might be wigs, hats, glasses, headbands with halos or devil horns attached etc. And if you don’t want anyone to dress in any racy or sexy costumes you may want to invite your guests to dress in “family friendly costumes.” Have fun!