Hi, Julie. My problem is probably a fairly common one and I would like to get your take on it. My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. We met toward the end of college and we’ve been inseparable ever since. After graduation we both began our careers and moved in together. It’s been two years since that time and I’ve been hoping for a proposal that I’m not sure is coming. We’ve talked about getting married and my boyfriend makes general comments about how things are good the way they are now and that everything will happen when it’s supposed to. I don’t know if he’s being coy so it will be a surprise when it happens or if he’s blowing me off. What do you think? Thanks, Amanda
Answer: Well, Amanda, I don’t know your boyfriend so I sure don’t know what he’s thinking. But, I would certainly say that the best way to find out what he’s thinking would be to ask him. First though, ask yourself exactly why you care so much about getting married right now? It sounds like you two are only a couple years out of college, there’s plenty of time for marriage and family. Maybe you’re so anxious for a proposal because marriage is the next thing on your list of what should happen. Have a direct conversation with your boyfriend without hints or beating around the bush. Be straightforward, but not pushy. Tell him that you see yourself marrying him someday and ask if he would like the same thing. Keep a timeline out of the conversation for now. Make sure you’re on the same page with what you both eventually want and that may help you slow down and enjoy your happiness now.